Encouraging verses from Ephesians 3 17-20 The Passion Translation say

Then, by constantly using your faith, the life of Christ will be released deep inside you, and the resting place of his love will become the very source and root of your life.

 Then you will be empowered to discover what every holy one experiences—the great magnitude of the astonishing love of Christ in all its dimensions. How deeply intimate and far-reaching is his love! How enduring and inclusive it is! Endless love beyond measurement that transcends our understanding—this extravagant love pours into you until you are filled to overflowing with the fullness of God!

 Never doubt God’s mighty power to work in you and accomplish all this. He will achieve infinitely more than your greatest request, your most unbelievable dream, and exceed your wildest imagination! He will outdo them all, for his miraculous power constantly energizes you.

So ...... If you want a foundation of love in your life

If you want to overflow with God's love to other people

It's not by trying to love, it's not by self effort

But the way forward is in verse 17

it's by "Constantly use your faith"
So that the life of Christ is released deep inside you
And the life of Christ .......... Is love
That is his character, his nature
And it will become yours too